Marriage Should Happen By Sincere Willingness and Readiness, Not By Pregnancy.

This has always baffled me that people hurriedly enter marriage because of pregnancy. Should pregnancy give you a good reason to go into marriage?

This is another common question we are confronted with.
Let me hit it straight by saying, most people have sex with someone they cannot imagine being married to. While this isn't right, two wrongs won't make anything good. So, if you were silly at first, don't be stupid with the follow-up decision. Don't bind yourself to a future that you can't see, because of a baby.
Again, for some, they are actually in a relationship that perhaps had marriage in view then they got pregnant and the question is, 'do we go ahead and get married?'
My response is this, yes you can, and of course, you can end the relationship if the need be. The point being, do not allow the pregnancy make you decide against reason. You need to make your honest consideration about your future like there was no pregnancy involved.

Let me come out clear. The child's destiny is different from yours no matter how close you want to feel about the child. My own biological Mum is not existing; I am alive. In nine months, the child will begin his/her own journey. Give the child another 20 something years and they would be independently carving a future outside you. Your destiny is not to live for the child. Training the child to independence is just a part of your life and not the summary of all you will have to do.
So, with or without pregnancy, assess you and them. Are you on current evidence headed to a future you can see? Are you growing? Are they loving, caring and taking responsibility for your future? Are they treating you like thrash just because there's pregnancy between the both of you? Have they changed since the pregnancy? Overall, on current evidence, does their conduct convince you of a future together and should you get married?. The push to marry them should be defined in their ttitude, character and who they are becoming, not pregnancy.

I may not have touched it all but, pregnancy should not automatically mean marriage.

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