NEVER LET A WOMAN DO IT ALONE
This write up is basically on men. They need to drop down ego and learn from this.
I grew up in a home where there was no washing machine, no such thing. Not that there is no money to get it but my mom and dad choose not to get it. My Mom was old fashioned, we always had to take care of our laundry the traditional way - with our hands.
She taught me how to wash women's clothings, sometimes she'll throw her bra into a bucket of hot water with some detergents and say "boy, let it soak for 10minutes and wash it." Oh yea it was crazy, and I am not shy about this, I learnt the art of washing a woman's bra from my mother, she taught me how a woman's bra is quite different from other underwear, washing a bra is not the same as washing a dress, too much squeezing slacks the edges, there are key areas of focus when washing a bra, like the edges right under the arm and the bust, and that bra's are meant to be washed regularly, one at a go, with a different water for each wash, do not squeeze, just dry, same thing with a woman's panties.. It's funny right ?..Dont laugh o, let continue...
I am not trying to give the uncles some effective bra washing lessons, I'm just trying to show you how deep my mother took me growing up as a kid, and like I said I am not shy to reveal these things, not now, maybe back then when I used to be like "what! Why do I need to do these things when she can do them herself? This is punishment." She was always insisting I do the bulk of the chores, even when I had siblings, which i found 'wickeding', I never knew mama was teaching me how to be a good husband, and how to treat my wife right.
She planted a strong mentality within me, "never let a woman do more when you're around" she would always say. So she entrusted me with the duty of adding the right quantity of maggi, pepper and salt in the soup while she cooks. It is not also easy to forget that the responsibility of stirring the soup was also mine. We shared the task of pounding the crayfish, many times I had to run home early from school to steam the meat and wait for her to get back from where she went to and decide what to cook with it.
"Never let a woman do more when you're around." This kept on growing inside me.
I remember one Saturday morning I woke up at 6am and I was told to make breakfast. It was fried plantain and rice with a very delicious stew, although half of the plantain was burnt, but I can still remember the look on mom's face when i woke her up to a burnt offering in a tray; Priceless . Never let a woman do more, and it stuck to me.
My mother always insisted I wash her cloths rather than my siblings, and I unconsciously grew up with it. I never let her wash her own cloths when I am around, funny how she'll always pile them up for me, but the beautiful thing about this is the fact that she never let's me wash them alone, while her son washes, his mom rinses and dries them off, shared duty. Not only was she teaching me how to be a good husband, she was also teaching me what to expect from a good wife -- she never let's her man do 'the more' alone. This even made my elder Sister have assurance in me when it comes to washing wears clean. So she sometimes gives me her clothes to wash on an agreement to buy something for me which she sometimes never fulfill. All na scam. Lolzzzz.
No lies guys, even until this moment I never let my parents do everything when I am around, it hurts me to see my dad lift a bucket of water, let alone wash, not when I still have hands. Sometimes when I call that I am coming over to the house when done with examination I know that they are searching their bedroom for dirty cloths and heeps them for me, their son is coming back home, and when I get home I take off my fancy cloth, roll up my sleeves, and bend down to wash till the last one, with so much joy!
Now, with all my mom kitchen lessons I know how to cook wonderful meals, my fried plantain no longer comes out looking like burnt offerings, and av learnt how to never let my woman do more when I am around or married, and even when I am away I'm always thinking 'how can I help her reduce the load.' Just like Yesterday, when they came back from the market and handed over what was bought to me....went straight to the kitchen. Cook the vegetable soup and make a very soft good looking Semo for the family.. When a visitor ate it, she thanked mom for the well-cooked soup and instantly my dad replied "Omo mi Adeshola lo se"* in english "It's my son _Adeshola_ that cooked it" the visitor was amazed because she never knew sometimes I'm the one cooking the food she is always served whenever she come around..
I know how to help out in the kitchen, I know how to put the right quantity of salt and maggi to taste. I know how to pound the crayfish and how to slice the vegetables, wifey needs not worry about that because my mother taught me how to be a good multitask partner. I know how to steam the meat before she comes home and decides what to cook with it. I could stop by the market too on my way home and get the ingredients, I know exactly what to buy, and I am not too shy to ask around the market for the ones I might not know.
I know how to be a WIFE when she's too strong to do it especially during the time of pregnancy. I know how to get out of bed early to make breakfast for her and the kids. I know how to treat her clothing, I know she can trust me with her undies when she's indisposed to do it herself, I know how to wash them real good as much as I know how to deliciously take them off her waist . I know how shared responsibility makes marriage easier, I know how to tidy up the kitchen while she sets the dinner table, I know how to be a good husband as well as I know how to treat a good wife. This is not about woman rapper. If she can wash your clothes including your undies, cook for you and also do all other things then you should be able to do the same. Remember the meaning of your VOW is to be each other's keeper. Don't be a lazy brat leaving excuse.
It's so painful to hear that some Men/Guys out there dont know how to do anything.. The only thing they could do is to drink garri and cook white indomie.. Some are so dirty to an extent that you can't bring your friend to visit them.. Sometimes my hostel mates in school will be like, Prof in everything, he fit clean the roof sef, your type no fit get room mate, unah go get problem. It is not my fault, that was how I was brought up. I hate to see dirty.
If I may ask the guys, Do you have any good kitchen qualities in you ?, Are you a man who can help your WIFE at home or leave her to do everything while you sit uselessly in the living room ?.. To be a Good husband begins with how you treat your present Girlfriend. Do you leave her alone to cook when ever she come around to visit you ?... Is your room always found dirty when ever she comes around ?.. Are you the type who uses up cloths and pack them down for her to wash when ever she comes ??... Common, dont be a useless man who has no other benefit than being capable financially... This is an advise to the LADIES, try to train your guy if lacks all these qualities and if he doesn't want to learn, left to you... You will suffer it in Marriage.. Make the qualities you need in a man go beyond his handsomeness, height, 6packs.. What is the usefulness of a man who has 6packs but can't turn or make Semolina perfectly?.. what is the usefulness of his handsomeness and meekness when he can't be of help in the kitchen or with house chores?.. To be a good husband goes beyond The financial Obligations and "I LOVE YOU".
For the guys who might want to ask if they are slaves to their wife/G.F... listen ;-
Doing 30% or 50% f the house chores whenever you are around doesn't make you a slave...
Doing 100% of the house chores during the time of pregnancy or when ever she comes back from work looking so tired because of the stress she had gone through doesn't make you a slave...
It sound so unpleasant that some MEN still leave their wife to do all the house chores alone during pregnancy and whenever she is tired and doesn't have the strength to work... Remember also that she is a WIFE and not a SLAVE too...
The marriage equilibrium will never be balanced if the wives know what to do and the husbands knows nothing...
Let work on ourselves Guys!.. That beautiful woman would never look old quickly if you treat her right by keeping her off stress through your assistance!
I hope you av all learnt something today?
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©Samson Crown
I grew up in a home where there was no washing machine, no such thing. Not that there is no money to get it but my mom and dad choose not to get it. My Mom was old fashioned, we always had to take care of our laundry the traditional way - with our hands.
She taught me how to wash women's clothings, sometimes she'll throw her bra into a bucket of hot water with some detergents and say "boy, let it soak for 10minutes and wash it." Oh yea it was crazy, and I am not shy about this, I learnt the art of washing a woman's bra from my mother, she taught me how a woman's bra is quite different from other underwear, washing a bra is not the same as washing a dress, too much squeezing slacks the edges, there are key areas of focus when washing a bra, like the edges right under the arm and the bust, and that bra's are meant to be washed regularly, one at a go, with a different water for each wash, do not squeeze, just dry, same thing with a woman's panties.. It's funny right ?..Dont laugh o, let continue...
I am not trying to give the uncles some effective bra washing lessons, I'm just trying to show you how deep my mother took me growing up as a kid, and like I said I am not shy to reveal these things, not now, maybe back then when I used to be like "what! Why do I need to do these things when she can do them herself? This is punishment." She was always insisting I do the bulk of the chores, even when I had siblings, which i found 'wickeding', I never knew mama was teaching me how to be a good husband, and how to treat my wife right.
She planted a strong mentality within me, "never let a woman do more when you're around" she would always say. So she entrusted me with the duty of adding the right quantity of maggi, pepper and salt in the soup while she cooks. It is not also easy to forget that the responsibility of stirring the soup was also mine. We shared the task of pounding the crayfish, many times I had to run home early from school to steam the meat and wait for her to get back from where she went to and decide what to cook with it.
"Never let a woman do more when you're around." This kept on growing inside me.
I remember one Saturday morning I woke up at 6am and I was told to make breakfast. It was fried plantain and rice with a very delicious stew, although half of the plantain was burnt, but I can still remember the look on mom's face when i woke her up to a burnt offering in a tray; Priceless . Never let a woman do more, and it stuck to me.
My mother always insisted I wash her cloths rather than my siblings, and I unconsciously grew up with it. I never let her wash her own cloths when I am around, funny how she'll always pile them up for me, but the beautiful thing about this is the fact that she never let's me wash them alone, while her son washes, his mom rinses and dries them off, shared duty. Not only was she teaching me how to be a good husband, she was also teaching me what to expect from a good wife -- she never let's her man do 'the more' alone. This even made my elder Sister have assurance in me when it comes to washing wears clean. So she sometimes gives me her clothes to wash on an agreement to buy something for me which she sometimes never fulfill. All na scam. Lolzzzz.
No lies guys, even until this moment I never let my parents do everything when I am around, it hurts me to see my dad lift a bucket of water, let alone wash, not when I still have hands. Sometimes when I call that I am coming over to the house when done with examination I know that they are searching their bedroom for dirty cloths and heeps them for me, their son is coming back home, and when I get home I take off my fancy cloth, roll up my sleeves, and bend down to wash till the last one, with so much joy!
Now, with all my mom kitchen lessons I know how to cook wonderful meals, my fried plantain no longer comes out looking like burnt offerings, and av learnt how to never let my woman do more when I am around or married, and even when I am away I'm always thinking 'how can I help her reduce the load.' Just like Yesterday, when they came back from the market and handed over what was bought to me....went straight to the kitchen. Cook the vegetable soup and make a very soft good looking Semo for the family.. When a visitor ate it, she thanked mom for the well-cooked soup and instantly my dad replied "Omo mi Adeshola lo se"* in english "It's my son _Adeshola_ that cooked it" the visitor was amazed because she never knew sometimes I'm the one cooking the food she is always served whenever she come around..
I know how to help out in the kitchen, I know how to put the right quantity of salt and maggi to taste. I know how to pound the crayfish and how to slice the vegetables, wifey needs not worry about that because my mother taught me how to be a good multitask partner. I know how to steam the meat before she comes home and decides what to cook with it. I could stop by the market too on my way home and get the ingredients, I know exactly what to buy, and I am not too shy to ask around the market for the ones I might not know.
I know how to be a WIFE when she's too strong to do it especially during the time of pregnancy. I know how to get out of bed early to make breakfast for her and the kids. I know how to treat her clothing, I know she can trust me with her undies when she's indisposed to do it herself, I know how to wash them real good as much as I know how to deliciously take them off her waist . I know how shared responsibility makes marriage easier, I know how to tidy up the kitchen while she sets the dinner table, I know how to be a good husband as well as I know how to treat a good wife. This is not about woman rapper. If she can wash your clothes including your undies, cook for you and also do all other things then you should be able to do the same. Remember the meaning of your VOW is to be each other's keeper. Don't be a lazy brat leaving excuse.
It's so painful to hear that some Men/Guys out there dont know how to do anything.. The only thing they could do is to drink garri and cook white indomie.. Some are so dirty to an extent that you can't bring your friend to visit them.. Sometimes my hostel mates in school will be like, Prof in everything, he fit clean the roof sef, your type no fit get room mate, unah go get problem. It is not my fault, that was how I was brought up. I hate to see dirty.
If I may ask the guys, Do you have any good kitchen qualities in you ?, Are you a man who can help your WIFE at home or leave her to do everything while you sit uselessly in the living room ?.. To be a Good husband begins with how you treat your present Girlfriend. Do you leave her alone to cook when ever she come around to visit you ?... Is your room always found dirty when ever she comes around ?.. Are you the type who uses up cloths and pack them down for her to wash when ever she comes ??... Common, dont be a useless man who has no other benefit than being capable financially... This is an advise to the LADIES, try to train your guy if lacks all these qualities and if he doesn't want to learn, left to you... You will suffer it in Marriage.. Make the qualities you need in a man go beyond his handsomeness, height, 6packs.. What is the usefulness of a man who has 6packs but can't turn or make Semolina perfectly?.. what is the usefulness of his handsomeness and meekness when he can't be of help in the kitchen or with house chores?.. To be a good husband goes beyond The financial Obligations and "I LOVE YOU".
For the guys who might want to ask if they are slaves to their wife/G.F... listen ;-
Doing 30% or 50% f the house chores whenever you are around doesn't make you a slave...
Doing 100% of the house chores during the time of pregnancy or when ever she comes back from work looking so tired because of the stress she had gone through doesn't make you a slave...
It sound so unpleasant that some MEN still leave their wife to do all the house chores alone during pregnancy and whenever she is tired and doesn't have the strength to work... Remember also that she is a WIFE and not a SLAVE too...
The marriage equilibrium will never be balanced if the wives know what to do and the husbands knows nothing...
Let work on ourselves Guys!.. That beautiful woman would never look old quickly if you treat her right by keeping her off stress through your assistance!
I hope you av all learnt something today?
You can scroll down a bit and hit the comment box.
Use WiSDOM!
©Samson Crown
I think have just learn something from this post, I will love to see more of this sir.
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