The way men understand love is different from how women understands it. Learn how to love your man right!
Dear Sister,
I feel I should share this top secret about men with you;
The way women process things and the way men think is very different. A woman can sit down to start recounting all the times her man has said "I love you" to her and the places he said it. A woman can recall all the things her man has bought for her since the start of the year, all the time he has been nice, all the times he has actually gone out of his way to do somtin special for her, etc. For women it is important to keep track of their man's care and giving in other to be confident that he has not stopped Loving her, or that his Love have not reduced. The last time he's being romantic by saving her from a fall, fighting for her or pulled out a chair for her in the restaurant has a certain percentage on a woman's love calculator, Lolz, the last time he said sweet words has it's own percentage too, #Smiles women are just too delicate and special.
But you see us men? We are special in our own way too. The way we are designed to process Love is a million miles different from how women are designed to process Love.
I mean, I have never had to sit down for a minute to start thinking about all the time my best half have said those three magic words to me. Men do not sit around taking stock of all the gifts his woman have bought for him as a way of knowing if she Loves him, or if her Love for him is still existing.
Then, by what?
👇
We are men, we don't go bothering about whether you're buying things for us or not, we have been designed to push our own wheels, so whether you're buying for us o uumm, whether you're sayin I Love you frequently oo uhhmmm, our Love calculator is very much different from yours.
How do we process love?
Sometimes when I'm all by myself thinking about My best half Love for me, the things I process in my mind are;
Has she been RESPECTFUL?
Has she been SUBMISSIVE?
Is she LOVING and CARING ?
When was the last time she listened to me and took my advice?
How seriously does she take the things I say?
Is she understanding the reason why I didn't call her was because I wasn't happy with her in which she understands Guy's shakara and try to call back to apologies?
I know as the man it is my duty to ensure that communication never breaks between us, but is she also supportive in that area?
Is there excitement in her voice when she talks about my family?
Is she making efforts to improve on some of those things we talked about the other day? Or she's finding it difficult to take corrections?
YOU MAY ALSO CHECK
👇👇👇
NEVER TAKE THEM FOR WHO THEY ARE IF IT WOULDN'T BRING YOU PEACE
These are some of the ways men process Love, we don't do passion passion, we don't put emotions before reasoning, like the way our Ladies Love to do. We are critical in our own Love process, and very datailed. So we don't want you to do a lot, your respect for us as your man is already a bountiful gift that we'll keep trying to repay.
A lot of you don't even know how to ask your man what he would like you to get for him increases his Love and respect for you far better than actually buying him that thing, it's just the common truth you might not know about us, it is not your money and gifts we actually need, it is your caring that completely win us over, the fact that you thought about it ranks higher than stopping by the shopping mall. Are you getting this?
Some of you in your vocabulary you don't have "baby, I saw this nice polo at the store and pictured you to fit handsomely in it, so I bought it", or 'so I've made a budget to go back and get it for you."... The only thing you know how to say very well is "baby how are you, have you eaten? If so glory be to God."... As if it is only food we came to this life to eat.
Let me share this with you.
I could remember a certain time I was sick in school. My sole good friend OIR came to check on me in the morning. Do all the house chores which I would have done if I wasn't sick and also make my breakfast and lunch. At about 5pm in the evening, she told me she wants to be on her way home because of the things she needed to do against tomorrow. Inside of me I knew she had really tried so I let her go.
Around 8pm, I heard a knock at my door thinking it was one of my neighbor, but to my greatest surprise she was the one I saw coming in with a small bag. She asked if I had eaten my dinner, I said no. She brought out what was inside the bag, and behold, it was a very hot well turned soft semo rapped in a nylon with one kind of Egusi soap with a very nice aroma. After eating it, I felt a kind of joy and hapiness for having her by my side even when she did all that out of a mere friendship. To her she had done nothing special but to me it was like I had the whole world for having her. I didn't felt that way because she brought me food. I was happy because of how she cared so much about me by sacrificing her time for me and the inconveniences that I caused her. Thats the same way your man would also feel when you do things that pleases him or makes him happy.
Imagine if he gets a nice shirt delivered at his house/office with your name on it as a surprise?
Imagine if you get him a new pair of shoe he can alternate with his trousers?
How about a new pair of jean to give him an alternative? That won't be such a bad idea would it?
He's been invited to a Ceremony? Buy him some nice men accessories to complement what he's planning to wear.
It is a once in a while something, your money will not finish.
Imagine if he gets a wrist watch from you with a note that says "baby it's not your birthday but Love you every single day. Xoxo."
What some of you know how to do is to complain about how he doesn't wash his cloths and tidy up his room frequently, aunty health inspector,
how about getting him a new pair?
Have you even thought about getting him one of his favourite club jerseys? Or you're there wearing stinginess and selfishness like Praise's agbada?
Listen aunty, treat your man right, especially if he's a good man. These days women who are getting married every weekend are women with an extra oil, women who know how to do that little extra to pamper the man who is giving all his best. Go out of your way sometimes and put a big smile on his face. It's still early, it won't be a bad idea if your boo gets a new shirt or tie he can wear and feel fly at work, shool or anywhere next week in courtesy of you. And you had better not consider it a Christmas or birthday gift either, we will collect those ones separately.
I think av spoken well.
To the guys, you can also indirectly advise your woman by sharing this on your walls for them to see.
Use WiSDOM!
©Samson Crown
Dear Sister,
I feel I should share this top secret about men with you;
The way women process things and the way men think is very different. A woman can sit down to start recounting all the times her man has said "I love you" to her and the places he said it. A woman can recall all the things her man has bought for her since the start of the year, all the time he has been nice, all the times he has actually gone out of his way to do somtin special for her, etc. For women it is important to keep track of their man's care and giving in other to be confident that he has not stopped Loving her, or that his Love have not reduced. The last time he's being romantic by saving her from a fall, fighting for her or pulled out a chair for her in the restaurant has a certain percentage on a woman's love calculator, Lolz, the last time he said sweet words has it's own percentage too, #Smiles women are just too delicate and special.
But you see us men? We are special in our own way too. The way we are designed to process Love is a million miles different from how women are designed to process Love.
I mean, I have never had to sit down for a minute to start thinking about all the time my best half have said those three magic words to me. Men do not sit around taking stock of all the gifts his woman have bought for him as a way of knowing if she Loves him, or if her Love for him is still existing.
Then, by what?
👇
We are men, we don't go bothering about whether you're buying things for us or not, we have been designed to push our own wheels, so whether you're buying for us o uumm, whether you're sayin I Love you frequently oo uhhmmm, our Love calculator is very much different from yours.
How do we process love?
Sometimes when I'm all by myself thinking about My best half Love for me, the things I process in my mind are;
Has she been RESPECTFUL?
Has she been SUBMISSIVE?
Is she LOVING and CARING ?
When was the last time she listened to me and took my advice?
How seriously does she take the things I say?
Is she understanding the reason why I didn't call her was because I wasn't happy with her in which she understands Guy's shakara and try to call back to apologies?
I know as the man it is my duty to ensure that communication never breaks between us, but is she also supportive in that area?
Is there excitement in her voice when she talks about my family?
Is she making efforts to improve on some of those things we talked about the other day? Or she's finding it difficult to take corrections?
YOU MAY ALSO CHECK
👇👇👇
NEVER TAKE THEM FOR WHO THEY ARE IF IT WOULDN'T BRING YOU PEACE
These are some of the ways men process Love, we don't do passion passion, we don't put emotions before reasoning, like the way our Ladies Love to do. We are critical in our own Love process, and very datailed. So we don't want you to do a lot, your respect for us as your man is already a bountiful gift that we'll keep trying to repay.
A lot of you don't even know how to ask your man what he would like you to get for him increases his Love and respect for you far better than actually buying him that thing, it's just the common truth you might not know about us, it is not your money and gifts we actually need, it is your caring that completely win us over, the fact that you thought about it ranks higher than stopping by the shopping mall. Are you getting this?
Some of you in your vocabulary you don't have "baby, I saw this nice polo at the store and pictured you to fit handsomely in it, so I bought it", or 'so I've made a budget to go back and get it for you."... The only thing you know how to say very well is "baby how are you, have you eaten? If so glory be to God."... As if it is only food we came to this life to eat.
Let me share this with you.
I could remember a certain time I was sick in school. My sole good friend OIR came to check on me in the morning. Do all the house chores which I would have done if I wasn't sick and also make my breakfast and lunch. At about 5pm in the evening, she told me she wants to be on her way home because of the things she needed to do against tomorrow. Inside of me I knew she had really tried so I let her go.
Around 8pm, I heard a knock at my door thinking it was one of my neighbor, but to my greatest surprise she was the one I saw coming in with a small bag. She asked if I had eaten my dinner, I said no. She brought out what was inside the bag, and behold, it was a very hot well turned soft semo rapped in a nylon with one kind of Egusi soap with a very nice aroma. After eating it, I felt a kind of joy and hapiness for having her by my side even when she did all that out of a mere friendship. To her she had done nothing special but to me it was like I had the whole world for having her. I didn't felt that way because she brought me food. I was happy because of how she cared so much about me by sacrificing her time for me and the inconveniences that I caused her. Thats the same way your man would also feel when you do things that pleases him or makes him happy.
Imagine if he gets a nice shirt delivered at his house/office with your name on it as a surprise?
Imagine if you get him a new pair of shoe he can alternate with his trousers?
How about a new pair of jean to give him an alternative? That won't be such a bad idea would it?
He's been invited to a Ceremony? Buy him some nice men accessories to complement what he's planning to wear.
It is a once in a while something, your money will not finish.
Imagine if he gets a wrist watch from you with a note that says "baby it's not your birthday but Love you every single day. Xoxo."
What some of you know how to do is to complain about how he doesn't wash his cloths and tidy up his room frequently, aunty health inspector,
how about getting him a new pair?
Have you even thought about getting him one of his favourite club jerseys? Or you're there wearing stinginess and selfishness like Praise's agbada?
Listen aunty, treat your man right, especially if he's a good man. These days women who are getting married every weekend are women with an extra oil, women who know how to do that little extra to pamper the man who is giving all his best. Go out of your way sometimes and put a big smile on his face. It's still early, it won't be a bad idea if your boo gets a new shirt or tie he can wear and feel fly at work, shool or anywhere next week in courtesy of you. And you had better not consider it a Christmas or birthday gift either, we will collect those ones separately.
I think av spoken well.
To the guys, you can also indirectly advise your woman by sharing this on your walls for them to see.
Use WiSDOM!
©Samson Crown
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