BE RESPONSIBLE AND LET YOUR CARING GO BEYOND THE QUESTION "HAVE YOU EATEN⁉"
The willingness to take responsibility for somebody offer than yourself is at the root of every successful Relationship and Marriage.
Aside the Tax collectors' ladies, Most women are always embarrassed to ask their man for money or for something they need, always embarrassed. They would rather soak up their challenges secretly or look for help elsewhere than going to him to ask for some help, even when she knows he has the capacity to handle it, they don't just feel right about it, especially for women with an independently 'I should take care of myself' mentality. And the problem is not a lack of courage or pride, the challenge is that they feel responsible for themselves, and more than anything else tthey hate that you might feel buggy/Mad.
The closest thing they try to do is get help somewhere else, even when those alternative sources are the most unlikely to be responsive she will still prefer to take that chance than ask you for anything.
She expects you to figure out that something is not right. She just expects you to read her body language and her moods. She expects you to read the words in her silence, but when you ask her 'how are you?' The next thing that follows is 'have you eaten?' then later "alright" irrespective of the kind of response she gave, and that's all, you don't go beyond that point. Even your question "Have you eaten??" Changes nothing. As a man that you are, you need to have the spirit of thoughtfulness. If you are thoughtful and concerned, you would understand every silent words of your partner.
Get this guys, as a responsible man there is just no way you can be comfortable that your partner is not asking you for anything, there is just no way you can be at peace with yourself, it should itch your soul unless you wear stingy-ness like Agbada. You are working and earning a salary but for three months you have not bought her anything, it's bad honestly, even if your budget is tight, even if you are saving to buy world bank, two months is enough to stop by the store and get her a nice pair of jeans or some tops, a fancy hair ribbon won't put your savings in recession, it's just the little things they do. I also understand you are still in school, but there are things you still need to do like sending her airtime when she least expect it, sharing the little you have with her. Even if it's little, I'm sure a good girl will appreciate that. There are other things you could do for a lady that can leave her with the thought of you being responsible than giving her money. You need to leave her with the assurance of giving and doing when you eventually make it.
Most of us are just relaxed over the fact that she works, her parent sends her money from home and can take care of herself. Yes she can, but even as one of the richest woman in africa, Folorunsho alakija, a Nigerian... she is also a woman, and as a woman she has needs that only a man can satisfy.
Don't wait for her to come asking you for little things, just as grown women always feel embarrassed to ask, grown men also feel embarrassed when their woman come asking for money and some common things they need, they just use their common sense to know that they are responsible for someone according to their capacity. Grown men ask what she needs, they don't wait to be asked. If this is you Brother please start using your common sense, start by showing concern with questions like;
"Baby, I have a free budget for April, is there anything you need that you want me to make a budget for?"
"Love, i know you need money for your food stuffs, I will cover for your Textbook so you can use the money you saved for textbook for your food stuffs, alright?"
"Bae, I told your friend that makes female shoes to make one for you, I paid already, just let her the design you like." Or
May be you ask if she had eaten,
She replied, "I have not, but don't worry I would be fine".
Never accept she will be ok. There's a reason behind why she hasn't eaten or behind that word "Nothing". Just ask her what she ate last and try and get her something she would love to eat. Even if it's money you suggested giving her and she refuses to collect it, force her to. That's what we call a matured responsible man. Don't just withdraw because she refuses to collect the money or because she said she is ok. You should know she sincerely needs it but getting things from you isn't her thing.
Or sometimes just send or give her some cash and ask her to keep it for you, we both know she understands what you're trying to do.
These little things are the foundation blocks of a relationship. Most brothers don't even have the account details of their partner and they are working, and have been doing relationship for over a year or more. Some cannot remember the last time they bought airtime credit for their partner, it is that bad.
Love is not free, the price is responsibility!!!
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Your friend,
Folorunsho Adeshola Samson.
©Samsonš¤“Crown
The willingness to take responsibility for somebody offer than yourself is at the root of every successful Relationship and Marriage.
Aside the Tax collectors' ladies, Most women are always embarrassed to ask their man for money or for something they need, always embarrassed. They would rather soak up their challenges secretly or look for help elsewhere than going to him to ask for some help, even when she knows he has the capacity to handle it, they don't just feel right about it, especially for women with an independently 'I should take care of myself' mentality. And the problem is not a lack of courage or pride, the challenge is that they feel responsible for themselves, and more than anything else tthey hate that you might feel buggy/Mad.
The closest thing they try to do is get help somewhere else, even when those alternative sources are the most unlikely to be responsive she will still prefer to take that chance than ask you for anything.
She expects you to figure out that something is not right. She just expects you to read her body language and her moods. She expects you to read the words in her silence, but when you ask her 'how are you?' The next thing that follows is 'have you eaten?' then later "alright" irrespective of the kind of response she gave, and that's all, you don't go beyond that point. Even your question "Have you eaten??" Changes nothing. As a man that you are, you need to have the spirit of thoughtfulness. If you are thoughtful and concerned, you would understand every silent words of your partner.
Get this guys, as a responsible man there is just no way you can be comfortable that your partner is not asking you for anything, there is just no way you can be at peace with yourself, it should itch your soul unless you wear stingy-ness like Agbada. You are working and earning a salary but for three months you have not bought her anything, it's bad honestly, even if your budget is tight, even if you are saving to buy world bank, two months is enough to stop by the store and get her a nice pair of jeans or some tops, a fancy hair ribbon won't put your savings in recession, it's just the little things they do. I also understand you are still in school, but there are things you still need to do like sending her airtime when she least expect it, sharing the little you have with her. Even if it's little, I'm sure a good girl will appreciate that. There are other things you could do for a lady that can leave her with the thought of you being responsible than giving her money. You need to leave her with the assurance of giving and doing when you eventually make it.
Most of us are just relaxed over the fact that she works, her parent sends her money from home and can take care of herself. Yes she can, but even as one of the richest woman in africa, Folorunsho alakija, a Nigerian... she is also a woman, and as a woman she has needs that only a man can satisfy.
Don't wait for her to come asking you for little things, just as grown women always feel embarrassed to ask, grown men also feel embarrassed when their woman come asking for money and some common things they need, they just use their common sense to know that they are responsible for someone according to their capacity. Grown men ask what she needs, they don't wait to be asked. If this is you Brother please start using your common sense, start by showing concern with questions like;
"Baby, I have a free budget for April, is there anything you need that you want me to make a budget for?"
"Love, i know you need money for your food stuffs, I will cover for your Textbook so you can use the money you saved for textbook for your food stuffs, alright?"
"Bae, I told your friend that makes female shoes to make one for you, I paid already, just let her the design you like." Or
May be you ask if she had eaten,
She replied, "I have not, but don't worry I would be fine".
Never accept she will be ok. There's a reason behind why she hasn't eaten or behind that word "Nothing". Just ask her what she ate last and try and get her something she would love to eat. Even if it's money you suggested giving her and she refuses to collect it, force her to. That's what we call a matured responsible man. Don't just withdraw because she refuses to collect the money or because she said she is ok. You should know she sincerely needs it but getting things from you isn't her thing.
Or sometimes just send or give her some cash and ask her to keep it for you, we both know she understands what you're trying to do.
These little things are the foundation blocks of a relationship. Most brothers don't even have the account details of their partner and they are working, and have been doing relationship for over a year or more. Some cannot remember the last time they bought airtime credit for their partner, it is that bad.
Love is not free, the price is responsibility!!!
Use WiSDš§ M!
Feel free to share with friends.
READ MORE
Click Asking Confirmation On Relationship After Serving Sex Is Bad.
Your friend,
Folorunsho Adeshola Samson.
©Samsonš¤“Crown
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