Listen, How long do you intend to go into courting or dating before going into marriage? How many years do you have in mind to be with a partner before the YES for marriage?
Most miserable marriages actually happened because both partner failed to have enough time or have limited time to know each other better before getting married. This is one of the reasons why dating in your Twentys is of a great advantage and opportunity to date your partner for a long time and knowing each other very well.
Some couples dated for few months, some a year either because they were in a haste to get married or they believe they don't have enough time for that which make most of the couples have problem in marriage. Their characters seems to change to each other not because they hide it but because they weren't able to know much about each other.
Let me tell you, one of my favourite quotes says "Begin the rush before the rush begins". Dating in your Twenty's or while in higher institution isn't a waste of time for this period will make you spend enough time knowing who truly deserves you. It's never a time you give to be in a relationship for fun or wants sake. If your purpose to be in a relationship now is not for marriage, my brother and sister, please think twice.
Life is too short to end up in a quick marriage that will not last. Most students believe the right time to go into a relationship is when you are done with your education or through with your levels because of distractions. They might be right, but I will say they were distracted because they allowed that and they didn't choose the right partner for them. How on earth will you go into a relationship with someone who is going to distract you in your studies instead of encouraging you on how to make A's in your courses? How on earth will you be dating someone who isn't going to add any value to your life except the material things they can give? Before you conclude that dating while in your higher institution is a waste of time, Think of the age you would be when done with school. Think of the years remaining to get married as planned. Think of the years you could use to go into a relationship before going into marriage. Like I would always say, I cant go into marriage if im not in a relationship with my partner for at least 2 or 3 years.
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LOVING HER NOW IS NOT THE PROBLEM BUT TILL WHEN??? The Body You Love Today Would Not Look The Same Tomorrow.
I can't risk getting married to someone I only know for months or a year. People go into a relationship with the hope it will turn out well but that is not always the case. Some people end up in an unhealthy Marriage and find out the hard way. To save yourself from such an unpleasant situation, try to get it right from the beginning. Get to know who you are dating for a longer period of time. This doesn't guarantee knowing all the attitude of your partner but to ensure that the person truly loves you and not just by words alone but also by their actions. When you date longer, you are able to see the red flags and come up with the solutions to deal with the problem before getting married. If that problem cannot be solved, then you have the opportunity to let go of that person without diving into marriage.
As the saying goes, "when you rush into marriage, that is how you would rush out of it". This is not applicable to everyone but these things does happen to some people.
Therefore, to avoid unfortunate situations, you have to take things slowly, don't rush into marriage. Watch out for the signs and choose the right partner.
Your life is determined by your choice. Choose right
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