Bro&Sis,
First thing, don't let being a single parent touch your self worth. You only chose to have the child when others aborted theirs. God bless you. Never hide that you have a child. Anyone who can't accept you because you do is not worthy of you. If a life you are not proud of led to this, live in such a way that it is clear that your past is gone and you have a new identity. Anyone whose focus is on your past cannot share your future‼️✊
When a person picks interest, be also interested in how they perceive your child because while they will be your spouse, they will have to be kind step parents not to complicate the child's life. While you should build the relationship between you two as adults, make your child an apparent agenda on the table. Don't hide the child or pretend the child doesn't exist, that child will be a part of whatever you build‼️ If the child can understand left from right, sit down with them, not like seeking approval but to talk the child through on your relationship.
Before you commit your emotions too far, consider and review all the factors that can break the relationship. For instance, if they are fine with the child, are they under over control of parents or family who won't⁉️🤔 Which voices do they differ to⁉️🤔 Is there any guarantee that those voices won't refuse your union⁉️🤷♂️ Be sure of these. If at any point they act like your having a child means they are doing you a favour courting or marrying you, run. That's abuse‼️
Make sure the Father or Mother of your child is not an issue for them to worry about. Deal with all related issues maturely and cut any nuisance value that they would pose. Remember to be very open about any welfare arrangements or reason why you will have contact with the other parent of the child. It is important to be clear about all contacts in order to maintain assurances.
May God direct you... Take note of this‼️
Use WiSD🧠M!
©Samson🤴Crown
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